Happy Tools

For a really long time with people around me I've been shying about and not wanting to show them who I really I am. So I show them a perfect version of myself deeply trying to hide all my flaws. I present to them what is acceptable in society and hide any negative or wrong thoughts that I have in fear that this will cause conflict and cause me not to be liked. Now I've started to become more comfortable with people it makes me nervous that they're starting to see my flaws and insecurities because after all, everyone else is completely perfect and stable right? It's easy to think that way but in reality I think everyone has flaws and thoughts that might not necessarily be acceptable but I really don't think hiding them away in a little box is the answer. Here are a few reasons why: 1. There are a lot of people out there with insecurities and fears - hiding yours away could cause other people to believe that you don't have any insecurities and hence hide their...

Since being back at University there's has been an exceeding level of focus on grades and academia . Whereas while working, this competitive, grade definition was not such a big issue. I find that being back there's this constant comparison to other people. People constantly asking you, 'How did you find this project?' or 'What did you get for this project?' and you feel a sort of pressure to do well and achieve as a result. While in a way this can motivate me to study, it can also make me really stressed out. When I'm constantly comparing with other people - I confuse myself. Everybody works in different styles and different paces. But just because one a further stage of an essay, I suddenly feel like I should rush to get that stage, disregarding my own project plan and pace. This is why I found that working away from University, I was much more content and happy with my own working style and as result seemed to not stress out too much about my work. Bu...

I have been pondering over this subject it lately, and I am in a bit of a dilemma. I have recently come back to University after a year out working during my placement year. Placement year for was a great experience because it helped me to come out of my shell. I've always been reserved and quiet and through working and taking responsibility I saw myself become more confident. I also discovered a world outside of work! As I was living with my aunt we both joined Toastmasters. This is a club where you work on your public speaking skills, you are taught methods to grab people's attention and tackle your anxieties. My aunt and I really enjoyed and benefited  from it. It was also a time that I discovered that speaking is like exercise for me. I'm not naturally loud person, but the more I put myself out there and practice speaking. The more comfortable I become with speaking and the less of a chore it seems. Now to my dilemma. I am back at University now - I've...