Learning not to care what people think
I got myself into a situation a little while ago where I became very self-conscious and worried about what other people thought of me. I became so paranoid and convinced that other people were judging me that I just couldn't be free and I couldn't be myself. It was here that I realised how much value I was placing on other people liking me. And there came a point when I felt like some people had turned against me or that they were judging me for certain choices and decisions I had made and it hurt me and bothered me.
But that whole experience made me realise that I know who I am in my heart. I know that I have good intentions and thoughts. I do make mistakes sometimes, but so does everyone. Whatever people think of me - it doesn't define who I am. Since that experience it's made me cherish the people I do have in my life and the people who have stood by, even during the bad times. It's brought me closer to the people that I need to be close with rather than people pleasing and trying to be friends with everyone.
I don't know why people judge each other, I guess it's a way of filtering information about people and taking a snapshot of them based on however much information you know about them. That's probably why it's easier for those who don't know you very well to judge you. I would be lying if I said I had never judged anyone or jumped to a conclusion about someone in the past, but after that whole experience I do my best to understand the full picture, before jumping to any conclusions.
We all go through awkward phases in our lives and make not so great decisions but for the most part people try and be the best person they can be. You might even make a decision that right for you, but people might just not understand it at the time. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, we're all a work in progress and most people are constantly trying to better themselves. People that truly understood each other and all the background information most likely wouldn't judge each other because for the most part, people have their reasons for their choices and behaviours at a particular point in time.
I guess it's a fact of life that some people might not like you at a certain moment in time but the more you become confident in yourself and who you are the less that will bother you. I am always working on building my confidence but I have found that the more I've grown as a person and the more assured I've been in who I am and what I want out of my life, the less I've cared about people's opinions.
So, to sum up, what I've learnt from this is to just continue on your path and journey and to not get bogged down by other people's opinions. Stay focused and be the best person that you can be and don't let other people's opinions define who you are.
But that whole experience made me realise that I know who I am in my heart. I know that I have good intentions and thoughts. I do make mistakes sometimes, but so does everyone. Whatever people think of me - it doesn't define who I am. Since that experience it's made me cherish the people I do have in my life and the people who have stood by, even during the bad times. It's brought me closer to the people that I need to be close with rather than people pleasing and trying to be friends with everyone.
I don't know why people judge each other, I guess it's a way of filtering information about people and taking a snapshot of them based on however much information you know about them. That's probably why it's easier for those who don't know you very well to judge you. I would be lying if I said I had never judged anyone or jumped to a conclusion about someone in the past, but after that whole experience I do my best to understand the full picture, before jumping to any conclusions.
We all go through awkward phases in our lives and make not so great decisions but for the most part people try and be the best person they can be. You might even make a decision that right for you, but people might just not understand it at the time. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, we're all a work in progress and most people are constantly trying to better themselves. People that truly understood each other and all the background information most likely wouldn't judge each other because for the most part, people have their reasons for their choices and behaviours at a particular point in time.
I guess it's a fact of life that some people might not like you at a certain moment in time but the more you become confident in yourself and who you are the less that will bother you. I am always working on building my confidence but I have found that the more I've grown as a person and the more assured I've been in who I am and what I want out of my life, the less I've cared about people's opinions.
So, to sum up, what I've learnt from this is to just continue on your path and journey and to not get bogged down by other people's opinions. Stay focused and be the best person that you can be and don't let other people's opinions define who you are.
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