Happy Tools

"Life is not a competition. Each one is on their own journey. Live according to your choices, capacity, values and principles." I got sent the above quote to me the other day and it really resonated with me. This is because I am 23 years old and at a time in my life where people are constantly coming in and out of my life. It was starting to make me feel a bit unsettled because you do get used to stability and having the same people around. People all seem to be do be doing different things with their lives. Some people are getting married; some people are studying further; some people are buying houses. You do sometimes wonder whether you should follow others on the same path and sometimes lose focus of your own journey and pace. The truth is, everyone is different in what they want from life - just because others are doing certain things, doesn't mean it's the correct next step for you to take too. There are so many things that I want to do in my life, b...

Three months ago I realised I had gone so far into my comfort zone it was like I was in a bubble. I was fearful of new situations; new people and new challenges. As a consequence I was really restricting myself from doing things and wasn't growing or learning anything different. I was going to and from work everyday; doing the same work; talking to the same people that I was comfortable with and not trying any new challenges or activities. Over the last few months I've started to realise how important it is to step outside your comfort zone in order to grow and not be dependent on situations and people staying the same. I've therefore been pushing myself to go out, talk to and meet new people; I've also joined some new activities outside of work which has really improved my confidence such as a weight lifting class! I've also looked at areas where I can improve and grow at work and start to develop more in my career. I'm can safely say the last few months...

Friendships are one of those wonderful things that make your life just that little bit lighter. It can be great to talk things through with friends and share your happy and sad moments. I'm lucky enough to have some incredible friendships which I've built up over the years throughout school, college and University and can safely say I will be friends with these people for lifetime. Nevertheless, I find it quite painful when I lose friends. I recently met someone who I got along really well with, we could talk really organically without it feeling forced and we had a lot in common. I genuinally thought we would continue to be great friends. But a situation occured which has meant we are not anymore. After six months of getting to know this person it seems we don't really talk anymore and  for the past month or so I have felt really hurt about it. More than this, they don't really seem bothered by it and I am. I don't have any dislike towards the person because of t...